Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Black Holidays

I might as well get this out and off my chest.

New Year's Eve, my poor husband caught my mother at another man's house. Inside his locked gate actually. After texting his long-term girlfriend, making sure she wasn't home. We knew for months that she was up to no good when she won't allow anyone on her phone. And my dad kept seeing the guy's number come up on phone records. We knew it was coming. Except, she denies everything.

My aunt called 911 on my dad, thinking he was suicidal (I know what was said, how it can be perceived that way from a stranger, but no way is my dad suicidal). My mother then put a restraining order against my dad. She took away the last thing he cared the most about, my brother and sister. At least til this Friday.

According to my dad, my mom filed for divorce yesterday. Shocker.

I wish they could've been adults throughout this whole thing. But no, she has to play games, setting my dad up to fail. Oh, she was making the boat payments in full on time, but the house payment was 3months behind. Because my dad's name was on it. SUCH a courteous one, my mother.

I pray everyday that my brother and sister don't get messed up because of this. My brother is such a roller coaster anyways. And my sister is very much a daddy's girl. It hurt when I had to tell my sister, no I couldn't eat spaghetti and spend the night. Regardless it was already 8:30pm.

During same week this shit went down, I developed a double ear infection. FUN. I have hydros to help with the pain but I can't take them during the day. And I want to sleep when I come off them. But at least my ears aren't in such pain and I can close my jaw again. I do wish I can hear again, though.

Krazy and her boyfriend broke up. And she's trying to be besties with MIL again. Ain't happenin. Krazy's pouting because we're not giving her the time of day. Good. She needs to be told no.

I think that's it for now. Gawd I hope so. I don't want to deal with more of this shit.


  1. Wow. I am so so sorry! I don't know what you're feeling right now, but I remember how it felt when something similar happened with my parents (dad was cheating and mom found out when she found an email he had printed off that had fallen out of his pocket when he went to go get us pizza. It's weird I still remember that. Then cue the drama, the threatened restraining order, etc.)

    It's obviously a shitty situation for your brother and sister because they are still minors living at home and you care about them and want to be strong for them, but don't forget to think about yourself in all of this, too. When parents divorce, it can have a huge impact on adult children, too -- especially when you're just starting out establishing your own family.

    I'm here for you if you need anything!

  2. That's terrible! {{{{HUGS}}}} Keep your head up.

  3. I read this when you first wrote it but wanted to wait until I was on a computer to actually respond.

    Holy shit. I'm so sorry about all of this. I can't imagine going through this with my parents. Why did your mom get a restraining order on your dad? B/c they thought he was suicidal? Why is that threatening to her? (None of my business, just curious)

    Is your dad going to try and get full custody of the kids? Or do you think your mom will?

  4. My mother got the restraining order because she was claiming to protect the kids from "his progressive behavior" but I think that was an excuse. The order has been since dropped and my dad has gotten the kids. Court was the day before my bday and i guess it went well. Dad gets the kids every other weekend and every Wednesday night. As soon as my mother got back to work that day she found out her job was being eliminated as of February 1st. Thats as much as I know. So we'll see what that brings.